What I Wish I Would Have Known Before My Wedding Night: Emotionally

The wedding night can be a big deal for some and not such a big deal for others. But either way, there is a lot that people wish they would have known before their wedding night. The following are suggestions that would be helpful to know ‘emotionally’ before your wedding night:

Emotionally:

1. It is hard to go from abstinence, to being sexually active.

For many people this can be difficult because they may have been told all of their lives to be abstinent. It can be hard to make the change so quickly. It might be helpful to start slow beginning with other intimate activities. For example: showering together, cuddling, playing strip poker or other intimate games. Starting slow will help with the transition from going from abstinence to being sexually active, and will help you and your spouse become more comfortable with each other.

2. It is important to not make expectations because as great as it is, it usually doesn't go like in the movies.

Making expectations can be damaging because it most likely won’t go as you planned. It is important to recognize that in the movies they only show a fraction of what actually takes place. There are a lot of things that the writers leave out when putting together their scripts. Like when your sweater gets stuck over your head, or when you have to stop to think about birth control, or how about when one of you is ready to go while the other just isn’t quite feeling in the mood. It is important to go into intimacy with an open mind, making no expectations beforehand.

3. Anxieties and fears about sex are totally normal, and it’s more than fine to talk about them.

For many people deciding to have sex is a huge decision and a big step in their lives. It is normal to have fears and anxieties. It might be helpful to talk to a friend, a brother or sister or even a parent. Having a conversation with someone may calm your fears and help you understand that it’s not as scary as you think.

4. Remember that you will probably be really tired, so don’t do too much.

Don't forget that you are probably both going to be really tired.  You will have many more nights together. So don't try and do too much your first night. Take it slow and enjoy just being together!

5. It is important to be understanding of your spouse’s situation and sensitive to their needs.

It is important to remember that men and women think differently and have different emotional and physical needs. Understanding your partner’s needs and being aware of them will result in a much better experience.

*Photo By David Castillo Dominici