Better Together

No one is perfect, and realizing this may help couples see that they needn’t expect perfection, but rather finding the good in your spouse is an essential characteristic. Each and every person may have flaws, and truthfully, that is ok. There are those little things that we need to be willing to look past, because if there are one or two little flaws that bother you about your spouse, there is a good chance that those little flaws will pick at you. The most important step here is to realize that those little flaws do not matter! And just like Jack Johnson puts it in his song, “We’re better together.” Beforehand, Jack mentions that sometimes life is hard, relationships are hard, and that is not a bad thing. But overall, just as the song states, “We’re better together!” And that is definitely the truth, working together with your spouse, whom you love, will always be better.

An excellent story that illustrates this example perfectly is known as “The Grapefruit Syndrome” written by Lola B. Walters (2011). The story is as follows:

Memories

Memories. They are the things that comprise our past, our relationships, and what future may behold us. When I think about some of my favorite memories with my husband, as we were dating, engaged, and those first weeks and months we were married, I get those little feelings within my heart of the love I feel toward him. It is an amazing thing to look back and see what you have been through together, and through remembering those good times (and the hard times when you were able to work things out) the relationship can grow and become even stronger. This is where intimacy begins. It begins in those first beginnings in which you meet, get to know one another, and decide, that person is the one in which you wish to spend your life. And this is the exact reason memories will continue to bring about joy and happiness in your marriage, because they are the very thing that have made the marriage what it is today. John Gottman (1999) came up with a questionnaire and book discussing principles that help marriages to work. His book, The Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work, goes through a variety of exercises and questions that helps married couples see where their relationship is and where it is going.

Equality in Marriage is the Key to Happiness, Peace and More Intimacy!!!

The song "Mr. Mom" by Lonestar has equality between husband and wife woven throughout it. This song is a great story of how a husband and wife can be equally yoked.

It starts out when the husband loses his job and the wife says that she can go to work while he stays at home with their children. He agrees and thinks that it'll be a cinch, but he finds out very quickly that staying at home with the children proves to be a non-stop job! A job that really never ends and during that time at home he is playing the role of "Mr. Mom" his love and appreciation for his dear wife grows immensely.