Unity & Service in Marriage

Hey everyone! 

My name is Allyson Macy from Keeping Up With the Macys. I have only been married for about 6 months, but I feel that in the short time I’ve had with my husband, I have gained invaluable experience that is worth sharing!

Two of the most life-altering lessons I’ve learned in my marriage are:

1) Unity in decision-making gives us confidence in our identity and future as a married couple 

 2) service toward one another is a powerful healing and strengthening agent.

Unity
The first thing my husband and I decided when we got engaged is that it is no longer “my life” and “his life,” but “OUR life.” Since then, we have always tried to make decisions together, with the other’s desires and needs in careful consideration.

An important aspect of unity is teamwork. My husband makes most of the money, but I feel like I am an important member in our marriage when he includes me in financial decisions and genuinely values my opinions. He lets me know that even though I don’t make as much as he does, I contribute in other ways and deserve an equal say in any decision-making process. As we work together to plan our future through financial, spiritual, and other decisions, we design a life that each of us is able to enjoy and look forward to every day.

Get Over That Marriage Plateau

Every marriage experiences it's ups, downs, and plateaus...but that doesn't mean you have to settle for being just "ok" with your relationship. Follow these tips to re-kindle that fire in your relationship!

1. Give Service, Think About One Another

When you are constantly thinking about the well-being of your spouse, you don't have the time to complain or delve into your own issues. Lose yourself in service! When you show that you care for your partner they will reciprocate and take care of you too.

2. Plan Unique Dates

A kick boxing class? Rock climbing? Movie in the park? What is "out of the norm" in your relationship and what is something one of you has been dying to try? Set aside funds and set a date to make it happen! Seeing one another in new situations and locations reignites that spark you have for each other.

3. How Did You Fall For One Another?

Revisiting the time when you two were falling in love with each other will bring back the fuzzy feelings you had for one another! What was it that attracted you to your spouse? What were your favorite experiences during your courtship?

4. Make Out!

Well, duh! Connecting through physical touch is a great way to reignite that attraction and passion for one another. Hand holding, hugs, kissing and more will show that love you have for your partner and reinforces the bond that you two have.

5. Fall in Love Everyday
Discover something new about your spouse that you love and appreciate, then show your appreciation for your partner! Falling in love everyday ensures a marriage that will last a lifetime!

How do you overcome those marital "lulls"? 
Share in the comments!

Relationship Lessons Learned: This Little Blonde

Hey there loves! I'm Brooklyn, and I am the crazy lady behind This Little Blonde.

On May 21, 2013 I got engaged to the man of my dreams. Considering he was my first ever boyfriend, he's been my guinea pig in a lot of ways! So today I want to share 3 things I have learned about healthy relationships from my fiance whom I refer to as Mr. Jolley. (Pretty great name to marry into right?)