Stress: How is Each Person in the Marriage Affected by Stress?

Each marriage has different stresses that may affect the marriage. Depending on the people and the situations in the marriage, each person is affected by stress differently. 

When my husband and I had our first child, we found that there was a lot of new stress that occurred in the relationship. We were learning to take care of another human, our child, and it was something different than we have ever experience. We dealt with this stress differently. Being the mother, I was extremely responsive to the needs and wants as our child grew, though it did bring stress into my life. I felt overwhelmed at tired all the time. I talked with my husband about this stress I was feeling in my life. I shared that it was tiring, exhausting, and I didn’t have time to do all the things I needed to get done (we were both in school during the time). My husband was not only dealing with the stress of a new child but also his wife was spending a lot of time with their child (which is how it is suppose to be, but it is a difficult change for many men). He closed off a bit, reacting to the stress in a different way. He did his homework, quietly, and would watch our child when I needed to do homework. We dealt with stress differently, and while it’s not a bad thing to deal with stress differently, I am sure there were ways we could have worked together to better understand one another and our stress.

Simply put, men and women deal with situation, especially stress, differently. Women want to talk things out, and through that they are relieved of stress, while men want to figure it out and find an answer immediately.

Remind Me: How to Grow Closer Together Physically

 Remind Me

There are two difference aspects to intimacy, emotional and physical closeness and openness. In Part one I talked about a way to grow closer with your spouse through emotional intimacy. Part two is about physical intimacy. In the song that Brad sings with Carrie it is talking about how this couple use to enjoy a physically intimate relationship they used to have with their spouse. They want it back now but have forgotten how to go about it. They want each other to remind them of how it used to be and how they use to connect with each other physically.

At the beginning of your married life together it is easier to touch, kiss, and show affection toward your spouse because

Stress: What Happens when Stress is Present in Marriage?

What Happens when Stress is Present in Marriage?

     

         After my husband and I moved from a loved town, we left our families and moved to a house a few hours away. Though I didn’t feel like I was stressed, I felt the results of stress! Since moving to the house about three weeks ago, I have been sick. Runny nose, extreme fatigue, and just plain short tempered. The house hadn’t been lived in for a while, and there was a lot of work to do on the outside. We had family coming to stay with us in three weeks, so we knew we had a lot of work that had to get done before they came to stay with us. We worked and worked, and all of my symptoms of the cold persisted. Having the stress of sickness (which was a result of stress) made me too tired to really spend time with my husband, who was also very tired and sick from the job he had just started (with very long hours) and the stress of not being able to help out on the house.

Stress: What Causes Stress in Marriage?

Every marriage experiences stress. No matter how much money the couple has, no matter how great the job is, stress is present. This coming July I will receive my bachelor’s degree, and just a side note to that, it has been a very stressful and difficult time for me and my husband. I worked full-time up until I had my baby boy 1 1/2 years ago. Along with working full-time, I also attended college full-time. Once my baby was born,

Remind Me: Commitment

Remember when you couldn’t keep your hands off of each other? Remember when everything he said made you laugh, or each time you looked at her you thought you were the luckiest man in the world? Sometimes we get caught up in our lives and forget about the people that mean the most to us. That usually means our spouse. How do we remind each other of things that we used to do? What do we do for our spouse to make sure that we are letting them know that we love them?

Stress: Is Stress Good or Bad in Marriage?

My husband and I have been married for 2 1/2 years. Through these years, we have started a family, moved away from our home town, and we will both be graduated from college by July. There have been a lot of stress and times of trial in our lives. The ultimate being financial strain. We realized this when we had our first child, as well as paying for rent, school, food, and the just basic necessities of life, we were struggling with money. We finally got some money back that we had been promised. I decided that I was going to get ahead on rent and pay two months. I got a money order, and by the time I got home, I had completely misplaced it. This really brought stress into my life, because we had been struggling with money, and now two months of rent was gone. I cried when I told my husband because I just felt horrible that I had not been more careful. We had to go back to the bank and explain what happened. They said that they could not refund us for three months! We needed that money for rent right then! We had to dive into our savings (which was not very much) which we had been savings for emergencies and pay rent. That was just four months ago, and now, even though it was recent, we have received the money back, we got our tax return, we moved to a place that has cheaper rent, and my husband got a job working full-time with good pay. We look back and wonder how we did it, but feel accomplished that we were able to make it through that stressful time and get back on top of our financial lives. That stress helped us to work together and help one another through. For us, that stressful situation may have helped out marriage become stronger.