We all know men and women are
different. But one thing I think we sometimes forget is the difference in
communication between men and women. As a woman I sometimes get frustrated
because my husband doesn’t express his feelings and always tries to “fix” my
problems. In order to improve emotional
intimacy it’s important to understand some of the differences between men and
women in communication so you can try to adapt your communication to the
opposite sex.
These traits are not completely true for all men or women,
but in general they show the difference in communication style. Understand that
there is a difference in communication can help with more effective
communication with your spouse.
Women
- Communication is a tool to enhance social
connections and create relationships.
- Communication is used to create and foster an
intimate bond.
- Women use more expressive and polite language.
- Value cooperation
- Less clear focus.
- Seek empathy and understanding when there is a
problem.
Men
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Goal-oriented, define sense of self by their
ability to achieve results.
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Use language to exert dominance and achieve
tangible outcomes.
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Value independence.
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Self-assertive and view conversation as a means
towards a tangible outcomes.
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Offer a solution when problem arises.
Husbands
When you talk to your wife try to understand and understand her emotions. Try lending a listening ear when she has a problem instead of trying to just offer a solution. Of course offer a solution if she asks for one. Understand that to your wife conversations are a way to build your relationship.
When you talk to your wife try to understand and understand her emotions. Try lending a listening ear when she has a problem instead of trying to just offer a solution. Of course offer a solution if she asks for one. Understand that to your wife conversations are a way to build your relationship.
Wives
Understand that with your husband sometimes shorter is better. When your husband offers a solution to a problem he is trying to help, because he cares. In normal conversation you may not see a lot of emotion or empathy don’t take that as “he doesn’t care.”
I give you a challenge for this week, try and modify your
communication style to better fit the needs of your spouse.
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